My Story

Here's the why. Why am I doing all of this? Because my heart still hurts. Because I'm still angry, and afraid, and because it isn't over yet. But more than anything, my why is that I know my experiences can help other people, either as a warning, or as a catalyst for a life changing realization, or as a soul sister in need of support.

It all began with the boxer, I loved him with every ounce of my being. You may think that's strange, but I think the more you read of my story, the more sense it will make. I had no idea what a romance scam was at the beginning, by the time I found out what it was, I was aleady in too deep to believe that's what was happening to me. I believed he loved me, without any doubt. More about him as the story unfolds.

After that ordeal, I became obsessed with learning more about these romance scams. I researched them throughly, and put myself back out there on the dating apps to find more of them. This wasn't difficult in the slightest, as scammers sell your information to other scammers, and they will find you. I have encountered many of them at this point, and the stories I write about are for the most part combinations of the scam relationships within each category of romance scams.

Of course some of them are so unique, they deserve a proper telling. There were a few that were more involved, relationships that I had truly hoped wouldn't end in a scam despite all of the red flags, but they all ended in the same way. The boxer is the only one that has not been combined with anyone else though, as that story still has my heart tied up in it, and until it is fully told I will continue to write it as it happened.

A couple more things I want you to know - I believe everything happens for a reason, and I believe my calling from all of this is to help other people avoid being scammed themselves. My story IS a worst case scenario, and there are valuable learnings that can be taken from it. Also, most of the scammer stories I share happened after I became an expert on this subject. I wasn't taken by them, no money was given, they were research for me. The worst I experienced was an aching heart and a disgust for humanity, both of which have long been healed by the time of sharing this with you.

I'm also hoping that by the time I finish sharing the story of the boxer with you, I will be able to take back the piece of my heart that he still holds, and find the bravery I need to face what lies ahead.